We know it is impossible to objectively change from one gender to another. So what must we then consider as the cause of the gender masqueraders wanting to undergo radical surgery?
A recent Swedish study reports that having gender surgery increases suicide attempts and lowers the quality of life. It also points to increased occurrence of psychiatric issues and depression after sex change surgery. This research allows us to claim that changing genders is frequently more folly than effective treatment for the wide range of gender issues that do exist.
Transgenders suffer from psychiatric issues ranging from dissociative disorders, separation anxiety to full blown delusional disorders. I don’t fault the individuals who suffer and eventually request the life changing surgery. In my view, the responsibility lies with the surgeons and approving psychologists, unqualified and unfit, who do not care about the long-term results of changing genders. The approving psychologists in too many cases are more about giving the wanna-be transgender anything he or she wants, than in providing effective diagnosis and treatment for real psychiatric disorders.
The current state of treatment, my fellow transgenders, isn’t working unless you think suicide attempts, depression and psychiatric disorders are a good thing.
Changing genders is a self-destructive process at its core. When you don’t like your birth gender, you claim you’re a different person than the one you see in the mirror, and you are always looking for positive external feedback for the imposter. But affirming the change only expands the disorder. Unfortunately this is occurring with kids, too, who are being affirmed by parents to change genders and some whacked doctors who “help.”
So many transgenders would benefit from:
- affirming themselves as they are
- giving themselves love, care, trust, and respect
- realizing they are already in possession of wonderful qualities, characteristics, and values that are far more fulfilling than surgery will ever be
- learning they can be happy just as they are
I understand transgenders are driven by strong feelings to change who they are, and they look around and see post-surgery transsexuals who seem happy. But what they are seeing is a snapshot, not the long term picture. Look closer and over a longer period of time and you’ll realize that many are not healthy or as happy as it appears.
It may seem weird to admit this but looking back, for me, wanting to be something different from what I was, was a big mistake. At the time, I did find it difficult to accept myself as a boy and easier to fantasize about leaving the boy behind and take steps to change my gender.
Now that I have returned back to male, I have discovered changing genders is all a big fraud. Surgery was never necessary for happiness.