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Better a Father or a Transgender?

Years ago I was bitten by the bug that suggested I needed to align my physical body with my gender feelings.

I was diagnosed as suffering from Gender Dysphoria and that would require a surgical gender change. But I was married, had 2 wonderful kids I loved and a wife who married a man, not half a man. 

The support for changing genders is very intoxicating on every level and hard to resist or ignore but I sure wish I had had the knowledge about the lifelong regret that would come my way as a direct result of changing genders. 

How utterly foolish I was to turn my life over to the pursuit of changing genders with hormones and surgery. Today I can look back and assess the damage and how much joy I lost over the years. If only I had just continued being a father to my kids. I see now the rewards of being a father in life are priceless; being a transgender is costly.

My regret inspired me to build the web site www.sexchangeregret.com. Thirty thousand (30,000) people view the site each year and I have found many others also regretted their gender surgery. 

Today I realize how self-centered and self-absorbed my feelings were regarding my gender change. Making the change became far more important than being a father, sadly. "If only" I would have paused and asked the questions:

Is wearing female clothing and make-up and becoming a female transgender really the most important pursuit over the course of my lifetime? Or, is being a father, supporting and guiding my kids and modeling what a father really is the best long term legacy for my life?

I should have given the same devotion, determination and desire at being a father as I did in using hormones and surgery to become a female transgender. I realize now: a father is real; a transgender is only a surgically fabricated female.

The transgender helpers turned on me when I returned to being a male after 8 years. The transgender supporters felt betrayed, but better the advocates feel betrayed than my kids. My daughter did not talk to me for almost 10 years and my son said he wished I had had cancer and died.

All because I felt I had no choice but to change genders. I was very wrong—there is a choice.

Too bad I made the wrong choice. Do not make the same mistake I did.

Walt Heyer

www.sexchangeinfo.com
www.sexchangeregret.com
www.tradingmysorrows.com

 Author of Paper Genders, Perfected with Love, Trading My Sorrows

 

Sexual predator safely hides behind transgender laws in WA

Evergreen College in Olympia, Washington is allowing a 45-year-old transgender, a registered student who dresses like a woman, to be legally protected while he exposes his male genitalia to women and children. This front page story is about a sexually sick person using the cover of transgender laws so he can act out his mentally sick behavior. 

This man is protected by law because he wears a dress and will be allowed to continue to expose himself while sitting on a bench in the safety of Olympia, Washington, Evergreen College women's locker room. 

If a school cannot tell the difference between a healthy transgender and a sick sexual predator, then shut the darn doors of the college and get an education in mental illness. Remember Jared Loughner in Tucson, Arizona (shooter of Gabriel Giffords)?

Can anyone be so stupid as to not know the difference between a sick predator and a healthy transgender? Or is it there is no difference at all? 

For me, as someone who underwent the surgical gender change, this story raises questions about the lack of protection for women or children from the sick or mentally ill folks who hide behind a dress and the transgender laws.

Any law that removes privacy protections for women and children and their safety needs to be changed without delay. Our laws must not selectively protect one group like transgenders at the expense and/or privacy protections for women and children. 

Schools should not become a safe hiding place for sexual predators to slip on a dress in order to expose themselves to children and have the legal protection to do so. Transgenders are not women, will never be women; they are transgenders via surgery.  I should know. I had the surgery.

The Alliance Defending Freedom group of Arizona sent a letter to Evergreen College, warning it that the decision to allow the transgender student to continue using the locker room could put the school in jeopardy. The college has said it would not change its policy for now.

So parents, here’s one more place that can present a danger to your children. Except this one is in the presumably safe college locker room and the right to harm your children is protected by our upside-down transgender “protection” laws.

It is time to change the laws and  protect our women and children from those males who use the cover of dresses to harm them.

That is the way this transgender sees it.

Walt Heyer
Author of Paper Genders
www.sexchangeregret.com

 

 

Teen Male to Female, Returns to Boy Gender

Could Dr. Spack at Boston Children’s Hospital be placing young people at risk of suicide with teen sex changes? Studies show that 30% of sex change clients will die from suicide.

Now an October 29 story about a teen that started down the path of sex change, only to realize it didn’t fix anything. A sobering example, this story should sound an alarm to teen gender changers, but will it?

Even after a thorough psychological assessment of this teen including counseling at Britain's Hull Royal In Infirmary and complete support and approval by the cross gender hormone medical team, Ms. Cooper says: “I tried to slash my wrist, I'd downed a bottle of Jack Daniel's.” All the result of sex change madness.

People get angry and upset at me, yes, your lovable little fuzzball, but no one gets angry or upset at the gravestones that stand over the cemetery plots of transgenders. Seems like misplaced anger if there ever was. As a transgender who attempted suicide with cocaine and now a reporter and blogger who wants to raise awareness and prevent the suicides, I say, why are ya mad at me?

The alarming 30% suicide death rate of transgenders should stop Dr. Spack and others, but it appears it only encourages them to try earlier and earlier hormone blocker intervention.

Yes, I blog about the alarming rate of transgender suicides because no one else has the guts to do so or they are the ones already six feet under.

Be angry with me if you like, but your anger at me will not prevent transgender suicides.

Walt

Read the full story of Ms. Cooper teen gender change at Daily Mail.

More info at www.sexchangeregret.com.