While exercising in a class today I heard floating out of the sound system the 1956 song by the Platters, The Great Pretenders. It started me thinking about how I had been a great pretender, pretending for 8 years to be the female, Laura Jensen. At the time, I was having fun. I had a new birth certificate, driver’s license and social security card but it was all make-believe.
I wonder how in the world did I fall for all this gender change chicanery some 30 years ago, electing to undergo the "sex change" surgery?
The thoughts about pretenders kept playing in my head long after I left the gym. It is not just a song; it is a message.
Who are the great pretenders?
- I was. The song reminded me how after 8 years as a transgender female, I was just a "great pretender." I fell for the foolishness and pretended to be a female for 8 years.
- The practitioners who give out cross gender hormones like candy to a baby are great pretenders. They play a very reckless game with people’s lives pretending they are above God; that is a great pretending game, for sure.
- Let’s not ignore the surgeons who play this reckless game of the great pretenders, claiming they are changing men into women.
- Surgery – the great pretenders’ moment, the place where the pretending surgeon stands with knife in hand over the anesthetized pretender lying on the operating table, motionless under the very bright operating room lights. The lights, I think, are the only bright things shining in this operating room.
- Moms pretend they are helping their 5-year-old boys by dressing them as girls. The long-term psychological or psychiatric disorders will emerge from this cross-dressing in the years to come. The adult child will pay the price for the rest of their life, not the mom.
We are seeing more and more pretenders come out of the fog.
- Some doctors are having a wake-up about the craziness of treating the gender confused with surgery on genitals and are going into a different field.
- The gender pretenders are waking up and returning to their birth genders. The desire to detransition can come at any time, from 3 weeks to 32 years after surgery. The regretters like me are looking back horrified unable to understand how we could have been so damn gullible to join in with this reckless group of great pretenders.
Now, out of the fog of gender pretending, we regretters sing a new song, this one by the country music artist Bucky Covinton called I Want My Life Back. The lyrics tell the story of a man who now longs for the old pleasures of life that were taken away. The lyrics are a regretter theme song--we now see how foolish we were, dammit.
But we are the lucky ones. We get a real life, even a good life. The pretending is over and has no place in our life today.