I have great compassion for transgenders who put their life, career and family on the line.
I have compassion for the 40% of transgenders who attempt suicide, the ones with unresolved psychiatric and psychological disorders, the ones who suffer serious surgical complications, the regretters whose lives are broken. I provide a place for them to turn to so they know they are not alone in their regret.
The gender change industry permits people to make a self diagnosis of gender dysphoria and provides an easy journey toward a surgical gender change. But what aboaut those who regret their decision?
The gender change professionals dismiss regretters and do not (will not?) provide support or guidance to those who decide to de-transition; no compassion there at all.
I see it all over the blogosphere—animosity, scorn and name-calling directed at regretters. Clearly those bloggers show a lack of compassion, acceptance or tolerance for these deeply hurting people. Ironically, the same ones who won’t extend tolerance to regretters are the ones who demand tolerance from others.
Why is there so much scorn shown for regretters? Is it better to have them dead through suicide, under a headstone in their grave, than alive and regretting? Tolerated or not, regretters are not going away.
I know how it takes courage to admit that the decision to transition may have been wrong after undergoing hormone therapy, multiple surgical procedures, emptying your bank account even living the life, only to discover the gender change was a horrible mistake. Then the hard part begins—the process of pulling yourself out of the pit of depression and looking for a way back to your birth gender. If you are one of those in need of compassion, come to www.sexchangeregret.com. You are not alone.
Author of Gender, Lies and Suicide; Paper Genders; Trading my Sorrows