For years I have written books, blogs, and given interviews on radio and TV in countries around the world, telling true stories of regret and detransition. But when I share the stories with members of the mainstream media, they are dismissive. Regret is rare, they say. But regret and destransition are not rare at all.
The truth is: With 40% of transgenders attempting suicide, you do not need a Ph.D. to understand they are unhappy, depressed and have deep psychological problems. Approval for hormones and surgery are given upon request even if the person is obviously unfit and has psychological problems. Changing genders will not fix them; therapy will.
It is amazing to me how tragic gender change stories rarely make the news. But here are a few:
1) Like the physician who wrote me. He became a “trans woman.” Yes, a physician! Even after following all the standards of care, he found regret and detransitioned back to his male birth gender. This physician looks back and now says, “If I could only go back to the day before my surgery in March of 2005--I would run from that surgeon’s knife.” Sadly, the approval process for surgery does nothing to reduce such stories.
2) Like the ABC news guy who wanted everyone to accept him as a transgender woman. Don Ennis, an ABC News editor, suffered a gender identity crisis, switched his gender twice in a three-month period, and posted a workplace memo attributing his actions to amnesia. Don became Dawn. Amnesia or multiple personality disorder? Anyway this is like many of the regret letters I get from guys who were completely convinced they were women trapped in a men’s bodies only to discover later they had some psychological problems. http://www.nypost.com/p/news/national/guy_again_eKq3Jw6LjgsjpBdmZklrtM
3) Like the NFL cheerleader, Texas native Philip Porter, who made the decision to transition back to his male birth gender after a whopping 32 years living as a transgender woman.
“I was born male, and always felt more female than male as a child growing up, to the point of before I could talk, [I thought] ‘I should be over there with the girls in dresses. After 34 years on female hormones, Philip started having discomfort with “hot flashes” so he discontinued using them. “I just said ‘Ok, I’ll stop taking these for awhile but it’s not going to change back after 34 years of taking them.’”
“And after that, it just started happening,” he continued. “After about 6 months to 9 months being off of them, ‘you know, you never gave yourself a chance to sort of live as a male. What would that be like?’ And it kind of was something in my mind that started as just a little thought that kind of like snowballed. And you know, I mean that’s just kind of how it happened.
It was just that simple, even after 32 years. So what is a “real” transgender? Is 32 years not long enough?
The approval process is laughable and so flawed, misused and woefully failing to serve the needs of the gender conflicted, the advocates for surgery are becoming a laughing stock. The chicken has come home to roost, you surgery pushers.
Let’s stop pretending and reporting regret is rare and detransitions do not happen. Get real.
Detransitions are now becoming BIG BUSINESS. The Sava Perovic Foundation website reports that worldwide more than 1,500 persons who got sex change surgery later decided they had made a mistake.
According to a doctor I know, Dr. Sava Perovic was the greatest urogenital surgeon of our time treating probably every anomaly of the reproductive organs and the urinary system that you can think of. Dr. Perovic was also responsible for teaching SRS to surgeons in Thailand. His foundation is now offering reversal surgery for regretters.
The 1,500 regretters mentioned on the website are those that have had their reversal surgery performed at the foundation. THAT is a big deal.
--Walt Heyer, author of Gender, Lies and Suicide